When the time is right

Many times, we encounter situations in our life where we know that this decision is right for us in the long run even if it hurts today. In actuality what hurts today is just the detachment, it’s a change in the neuron connections that were built over time when the connection was going on. When the connection breaks, the neuron connections that were built all this time, you start craving the same habit, and when you are unable to get through that, it starts hurting.

Before you fall into a connection, your happiness and quality of life are somethings that should be given a lot of importance and hence should be looked at on a priority basis. Sometimes we might keep these things secondary and think that they can be compromised as the power of love is higher than all of that. And probably that is even true, the power of love is such that you can actually break the mountains and cross seas as well. But then are you sure that the intensity of the power is unshakable at all points in time?

There are situations when your love is tested and everything is shaken to the core to see if the roots have gone so deep that no cyclone can break the trees standing on top of the soil. But sometimes even if the roots are very deeply spread, the soil which surrounds the roots all the time may fall apart and even the roots that seemed to have spread very far deeper into the soil will uproot themselves. And that’s when you would realize that even if you think the connection was very strong, you still need the outside factors as well, to play along well in sync with your connection for it to thrive, and if not all the time, but at least not break/uproot when the situation gets worse.

There will be moments of cyclones and typhoons coming to disrupt your well-going connection, but then not just that the roots should be so deep into the soil but that also the soil (surroundings) should also be in favor of supporting the tree (connection) when it is needed.

I will never doubt the depth that the roots reached in this connection, it's because of those depths only that till today we find our comfort with each other only. But then when we know this will all be disrupted when the surroundings will not be able to favor us when we will face our personal turbulences, we know it's better to give up on this at this moment only.

It's at that time we know that even if it hurts right now, we are taking the right decision for ourselves. It’s better to go through this pain to avoid the pain of the entire lifetime, with just sufferings and compromises and probably the wars in silence. The yearnings have died, or not, we can’t be sure. I never hope the situation was otherwise, a little more favorable perhaps. Never. Because we haven’t seen what is coming in our life ahead, what if that is something we have been preparing all our lives for?

At that moment, it seems very unfair or partial, but then for me, I never believe in those things. It’s better to take life with whatever if offers you, I won’t say don’t stretch your arms to get the good things. No, please. Always stretch your arms as much as possible to get what you want and deserve. But never look back and regret what is lost. Maybe what is coming up is even better, not better in terms of the features it has, but just a better fit for your personality and life ahead.

When we build certain connections, at that point in life, we do need those connections but when our lives change their course of direction, we will need a different person altogether. Hence until our personalities our fixed, we can’t be sure of what is the best fit for us. So, it is okay to stay confused as to what type would exactly suit yours. You just enjoy your life today, and let time do that work for you. And you know it, when the time is right it will happen definitely.

With huge regards, Shambhavi, signing off! :)