Dealing with Superficial Friendships as a Teenager

Ever since I was a kid, I was ridiculously keen to make friends with anyone I could- even if the person was my very old neighbour, or my friend’s mother. I would talk to the end of the world. Though, not everyone can handle such a personality. I’ve had come across some people who couldn’t stand my loquaciousness, and I won’t blame them as well. I gabbed of absolute nonsense. However, my talkative personality came in handy when I had to make friends. It was quite easy getting along with kids of my age. 

But I wasn’t lucky with the kind of friends I made.

And if you’re reading this, perhaps you might have had such friends too! Speaking of, I would like to start this blog with a positive note. Some people are not meant to stay with you until your last breath, they might just be there for quite a while, teach you a lesson, and go. What the take is to cherish those friends for the good memories, and forget the bad parts so they won’t occasionally hurt you and become a lifetime trauma. So with that, don’t dwell upon the past! 

Friends are indeed enormously important in your life- they’re not just there for the sake of being there, they become a part of your life, a precious part of you. You’d want to spend most of your time with them, crack funny jokes and just forget your worries, being totally unaware. They are like a breath of fresh air, and when you exhale, all the worries just get thrown away back into the air. Over the years I have come to the realization that a true friendship would make you feel so light as that one leaf of the autumn amongst many others, swaying in the wind, and eventually falling down lightly. A healthy friendship does not need additional efforts. In fact, all it takes is their company, and your problems might fly away in a mere gust of wind. 

A good friend makes you feel important, needed and would appreciate you for the way you are. 

Unfortunately, as teenagers, getting stuck in the middle and our minds being partially developed, we often lack the skills to make the right kind of friends. 

Friends who let you down and make you feel like a piece of garbage are not friends. They’re just people, mean people, insecure of themselves, who are basically suffering from what we call ‘Inferiority Complex’. Don’t let them tell you what you are, re-shape you of how you’ve been built, and let you drown into the fake reality, which essentially, they created. 

Sometimes, it’s okay to be with no-one rather than being with those who make you feel like no-one. Friends are there to make you feel better, not to belittle your valuable existence. 

If there’s anyone who can completely understand you, that’s you, trust me. 

If there’s anyone who will always appreciate you every time you deserve it, then that’s you. 

And, if there’s anyone who would love you as much as the Moon loves Earth, that’s you again!

Choosing solitude over superficial friendships is worth it, for you really need to preserve your true essence. You do not need to seek understandings from people who never really tried to understand you in the first place. For me, when this realization struck me, I just wished to know myself better, wanting to become the best version of myself; while still treating those close to me with immense love and care. Though, that still did not stop me from getting to know more people, I still enjoyed learning from others and vice-versa. 
Loneliness and alienation are two valid emotions, but just like other feelings, they’re temporary. They’re only for a brief while, and so are friendships. What are meant to stay will stay, and what are not would definitely leave.

It was the end of the chapter, and now you have to write your next, so brace yourselves for the adventures life has in for you!